Dating soon after a spilt up
But research shows that online dating is now the number-one way to meet people for the over 50s, and as the number of users aged over 45 overtake those under 25, experts say it’s time we started embracing technology when it comes to our love lives.
“Dating in midlife and beyond can be daunting,” says relationship psychologist Honey Langcaster-James.
But contrary to what you might think, there are thousands of normal, healthy people online looking to meet someone great.” Elizabeth, 52, had been married for almost 25 years when her husband told her he’d met someone else.
“The two things I remember very clearly were that his face had gone that purple colour it went when he was feeling defensive, and the other was that I was so unbelievably stupid,” she says. I thought I had my life all mapped out and arranged – I thought I knew what my future looked like.” Three years on, she says, she barely remembers anything about the months after her husband left.
As you start to drive home old, familiar thoughts start to creep into your head.
You can’t stop thinking about jerkface and your heart starts to ache again. No, it’s your date, your heart sinks,“I had a great time tonight.
You pull up your old profile from that dating site, put your pictures back up and within a few minutes you’ve already got a couple of messages.
You’re Addicted to High Intensity Relationships If you are stuck in a cycle of repeatedly breaking-up and getting back together, then you are addicted to the relationship.
The peak of getting your partner back is like a heroin rush to your system.
“To be honest, when I first went online, I had no intention of going on any dates,” she explains.
“I wasn’t really interested in meeting someone, but my daughter was persistent and said I needed the distraction.
You’re caught up in the excitement of the evening, you get in your car and you’re off to meet your potential new mate. While you’re in the bathroom stall you text your best friend, “I think I just met my future husband.” The date ends, you hug and give him a peck on the cheek.